God created us with physical and emotional needs that must be properly met for a person to feel loved. Your emotional needs are just as important for your growth and maturity as your physical needs. The need for love can be compared to the need for water, because both are essential for life. An emotional connection or a bond with another person is how your emotional needs are met. If this bond has not been developed, you will suffer silently, longing for a meaningful relationship. If love is not flowing between two people in a relationship, each one feels like a broken withering limb hanging from a tree cut from the life source. Plants need to stay connected to the water source, and we must stay connected in relationships where love is flowing, where emotional needs are being met.
In his book Changes that Heal, Dr. Henry Cloud says, “Nothing grows anywhere in God’s universe apart from a source of strength and nutrition. The Bible frequently pictures growth using plants. Think about how plants grow. They must be connected to something outside themselves. The stalk is connected to the roots, which in turn are buried in the soil where they draw moisture and nutrients up into the stalk; the stalk is also connected to the branches, which are connected to the leaves, which catch the sunlight and transform its radiant energy into a chemical energy that feeds the plant.”